The Simple Secret to a Better Marriage

Love & Respect ch. 1

One of my favorite things about this book is that it is filled with various stories of real life couples struggles and how they were/should be resolved. Chapter one is merely an introduction to what the whole book is about. As you might have guessed the book is about Love and Respect….But how does that actually look like in real life? Dr. Eggerichs pulls this idea straight from scripture in Ephesians 5:33 “Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” (NIV) < L&R>>

So is this idea really as simple as it is written? Kind of! It is a simple command, but because we are human and live in a fallen world…we are not perfect, therefore this basic command(not suggestion) becomes much harder than it sounds. Why do you think the Lord commanded husbands and wives to do just this? When you think about it ladies, which do you want more? Love or respect? Of course we want both but speaking as a woman, I want to be loved and to know I am loved. The same goes for husbands, they want both but more than being loved, they want to feel respected. As a women, it is in our very nature to be loving and nurturing. Therefore our husbands know we love them but when we do not show them respect, they breakdown.

Dr. Eggerich speaks of coming to an “aha” moment with this subject. He states, “Without love, she reacts without respect. Without respect, he reacts without love.” This “simple” command from the Bible has powerful consequences when we do not follow them. This week I challenge you to focus on how you can show respect to your husband and for you men, how you can show love to your wife. I also encourage you to read chapter one in Love & Respect. There are several stories Eggerichs uses to demonstrate this concept. On page 5 in L&R you can find a diagram like this one that illustrates The Crazy Cycle.

crazy cycle

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**One thing to remember is that we are called to show our husbands respect even when our husbands are being unloving and husbands, you are to show your wife love even when she is being disrespectful.**

Let me know how this challenge in showing Love and Respect

this week goes for you! Also if I can be encouragement for you let me know!

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